At The Lighthouse, the work conducted with couples focuses on identifying and clarifying the current goals of the relationship with an emphasis on action, accountability and follow through. It involves creating a vision, developing proactive future goals, individual personal development, planning realistic strategies, and taking positive action steps.
Even if you have tried marriage counseling before in the past, the approach that Ray & Jean take with couples is very different than traditional marriage counseling can offer.
No doubt, relationships take a lot of hard work, but you don't have to suffer. And although Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian are counselors, this approach is worlds away from traditional marriage counseling or couples therapy.
Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian, founders of Couples Synergy, have taught countless couples how to create a better relationship, with all the elements necessary to be healthy and happy:
- Dynamic Communication Skills
- Ability to Set, Maintain and Effectively Enforce Personal Boundaries
- Ability to Change and Grow with your Partner
- Whole, Healthy and Powerful Partners
- Personal Development of Strengths and Skills
- Common Dream and Vision
Couples Synergy –
Creating better relationships...one couple at a time
Our work with couples is worlds apart from traditional couples or marriage counseling. Whether you are single, dating, married or divorced, we will teach you how to create the relationships that you desire and deserve through self-awareness, education and practice. The Lighthouse approach with couples is very unique in that it is patterned on 3 fundamental relationship dynamics.
The first dynamic is the law of attraction. Our goal is that each person becomes whole and healthy. Your partner is the perfect person to help you learn how to change, even if you end the relationship. If you do not heal what is wrong in your current relationship you will get another chance. You will continue to attract partners with similar issues until you learn what your piece of the destructive pattern is. Doing this work will change all your relationships for the rest of your life!
The second dynamic is that it is easier to see outward than inward. When we first meet a couple they are very clear about what they believe their partner needs to change. However, the only place of power you have in a relationship is to understand how you are contributing and influencing the relationship. We know that each person is 50% responsible for the condition of their relationship. We help each person understand what they have the power to change and how to respond to the things that they cannot change.
The third dynamic is communication. Most people have never learned all the complexities of communication including biological factors and learned behaviors that unknowingly contaminate communication. Most people report at the first meeting that they feel misunderstood, unfairly judged and invisible in the relationship. Communication has become an endless dance going round and round but always ending up in the same stalemate. We help couples identify the problems in their communication and learn more effective ways of connecting with one another.
Couples counseling is conducted personally by Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian in their Arlington Heights office. They believe it is very powerful to have a married couple team up with you and your partner to help you create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of with the partner you fell in love with. What we call, Couples Synergy.